Positive Parenting with Carleen Tanner

Every Tuesday for the next 10 weeks, it is my privilege to attend an amazing parenting class taught by Carleen Tanner. I am going to try and share a little of what I come away with each week. This weeks topic of discussion:

Establishing a House of Order

my notes. . . 

Learn to use the gift of the Holy Ghost in the "everyday's" of our lives. *Learn to listen.

Keep a ponder pad - record sudden strokes of ideas (Holy Ghost testifying to you the things you need to do) act in Faith.

Elder Wirthlin:

"Examine your life, determine where you are. Create nobel righteous goals from the fire of your imagination. Create excitement in your heart and keep your eye on the goal"

Get a vision - see what it looks like to be what you want to be. find a role model, look around and find someone to learn from, but don't compare!

Your goal needs to be based on doctrine in order to change your life. Doctrine changes lives.

D&C 88:119

Organize yourselves; prepare every needful thing; and establish a house, even a house of FAITH, a house of LEARNING, a house of GLORY, a house of ORDER, a house of GOD.

Take our homes out of chaos and bring them into order and peace.

Order = spirit of contentment, happiness and joy, encompassed by a feeling of security

Establish Routines (daily, weekly, monthly)

D&C 88:124 ..."cease to sleep longer than is needful; retire to thy bed early, that ye may not be weary; arise early, that your bodies and your minds may be invigorated."

In order to create order you'll have to get up. How? retire to bed early.

Put our homes in order so the Spirit can be there. Be Bold in our commitment to follow the Savior.

***Homework***

1. Choose a nobel righteous goal from the fire of your imagination.

2. Bring our homes out of the world. Bring them back to the Lord. Create an environment where children know they are safe. Make it a tangible difference.

3. Create a "Brasher Family Proclomation"   Who are you?  Who do you represent?  What does it mean to be a Brasher?

***remember: don't focus on reaching your goal all at once. improve by percentages. focus on what you are doing right and take a step at a time.

EXUSE THIS HOUSE

Some houses try to hide the fact

that children shelter there.

Ours boasts of it quite openly

the signs are everywhere.

For smears are on the windows,

little smudges on the door.

I should apologize I guess,

for toys strewn on the floor.

But I sat down with the children

and we laughed and played and read.

And if the doorbell doesn't shine

their eyes will shine instead.

For when at times I'm forced to choose

the one job or the other.

I want to be a housewife,

but first I'll be a Mother.